Sex addiction is a curable addiction. Many people think sex is not an addiction some others think it is. Sex addiction can be really dangerous, its an addiction like any other. Caused by the neurobiological response of the brain to stimulus and can be cured. Unfortunately, sexual dysfunctions and addictions negatively impact relationships more than we would like to admit.
The behavior must significantly interfere with normal life, although sex addiction is the basis for life on many television programsand in magazines, and in movies, the reality show is that sex adooction is a condition which destoys families, relation ships, and lives . The brain keeps releasing the brain chemical that makes the body to feel like wanting to have sex. Its the sensation of sex that people like and their brain reacts to it and releases it chemical to satisfy the body. Many people think that sex addiction its a disease which people are born with or its in their blood. People who experience sex addiction suffer from emotional feelings.
Sexual addiction is not a ‘disease’ whereby someone is a helpless victim. There are victims, or course, and the addict himself may have been victimized when young, but as an adult is responsible for his choices and behavior. Calling it a ‘disease’ implies we can’t control it and that we are therefore free to let it go. This can be justification for the addict and an excuse for their mate. While sexual addiction does have great power over us, it can be overcome!
National surveys reveal that most sexual addicts come from severely dysfunctional families. Usually at least one other member of these families has another addiction. This is true in 87% of the cases. ( Rev. Dr. Jerry Schmoyer page 1)
Inconsistent parental nurturing and love definitely can contribute to sexual addiction. It destroys a child’s natural desire for intimacy and makes them suspicious of the ‘good times.’ A sense of parental betray when they need to feel emotional and spiritual love and support can make a person susceptible to turning to sex to find security.
Insufficient parental teaching and modeling can leave a child without a solid foundation of love and respect. When they are taught that intimacy brings pain then they soon learn it is safer to withdraw emotionally from others. Substitutes are needed to meet needs for intimacy.
Stress can contribute as youth seek to escape or avoid stress by use of sex. Often this is modeled by their parents and passes from generation to generation.
Early sexualization by sounds, sights and touches that are inappropriate can cause a child to assign an improper place to sex in life. Child abuse is a major contributor to sexual addiction in adults. Research has shown that a very high correlation exists between childhood abuse and sexual addiction in adulthood. 97% of sex addicts have been emotionally abused as a child, 83% have been sexually abused and 71% have been physically abused.
Some children are impacted more than others by child abuse. This is influenced by the innate personality differences of various children. Also, some have a strong supportive relationship with an adult that helps them grow through the abuse.
While these things contribute to causing sexual addiction in a person, there is a deeper root cause that needs to be understood.
Being sexually addicted can cause problems. Remember, sexual addiction itself isn’t the problem, although it can cause multiple problems. Sex addiction is just a symptom of a far deeper problem. Cures don’t come by treating symptoms!
Sex addiction is a byproduct of loneliness, pain and the need to be loved and accepted. It is a substitute for these, a counterfeit way to meet legitimate, real needs. However it fails to really meet these needs so greater and greater amounts are sought in a futile search for what is missing.
Addictions are reactions to gaping holes in a person’s life. These are caused in childhood when proper love and security isn’t given to a child. Babies are born with a great need for unconditional love and security. They need to be loved and cared for. We all have a deep inner need to held and told we are special and important. We need our parents to hug us and tell us they are proud of us, we are unique and will have a great future. We need to have this happen over and over and over. If it doesn’t, or if mixed messages are sent, we get the message that we are inferior and unlovable. Children assume it is their fault that they aren’t loved and cared for. They feel something must be wrong with them for their parent or guardian to be unable to love them in the way they need. As we mature we know in our minds that this isn’t true – often the adult had their own issues that made it difficult or impossible for them to show unconditional love. By the time we are old enough to realize that the damage has been done, the messages have been sent and believed, and patterns of behavior to compensate have become firmly established.
Everything in life is then geared to bring safety and security, to answer the question, “Am I lovable?” Where can I find acceptance and security? How can I handle the hurt and loss inside? What can I do to get rid of my pain and fear? This leads to all kinds of substitutes and counterfeits. Sex addiction is one of many ways of ‘coping.’
When a person is unable to have real intimacy with another, to really give ones self without reservation, to overcome feelings of rejection or failure, sexual compulsions often compensate. Sex becomes a way of escaping pain and substituting reality with a fantasy world. Society conditions us to this, for everywhere around us we see lust replacing love and substituting for real closeness. Satan works with this, too. His demons magnify openings we give him and keep working on them, putting thoughts and desires into a person’s mind. Often this follows family lines, going from grandfather to father to son.
Male sex addicts invariable feel powerless around women. They have a very hard time relating emotionally so they only relate sexually. In their fantasies or acting out they are in control of women, who are objects for their use. This causes them to feel superior and in control, to seem like they are needed and a woman can and will respond to them as a male, even if just sexually. A sexual object can’t hurt or reject them, nor can the object make demands of them or have needs they can’t fill. They are what they have always sought to be: safe, secure, in charge and needed. In degrading women they are paying back all women for the hurt they received when young. Sex becomes a substitute for intimacy.
In addition, the chemical lift that was described earlier gives them such a pleasurable high that all pain and fear is temporarily removed and, often for the only time, they feel ‘good.’ When over, though, men feel trashed and terrible about themselves. They often promise to change their behavior but, because they feel even worse about themselves than before, they end up reverting to their only means of escape – sex.
For most people, having sexual relationships, fantasies, and behaviors would be normal human behavior, but for the sex addict, they cause problems. Most women who are sex-addicted don't have role modeling from their mothers and/or fathers for how to have emotional intimacy in nonsexual ways. Research has shown that there is often a combination of rigidity of some kind and a lack of emotional support in the sex addict's family of origin. Also, there is a high incidence of sexual abuse (with and without touch) in the histories of women sex addicts. Thus men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love!
Emotionally for the sex addict sex isn’t really about sex, they just use sex. Sex is involved as a means to an end but is not the end itself. It is really about emotional intimacy – lack of it, need of it, fear of it and the drive to attain it. The addiction provides an illusion of affirmation, a veneer of control and connection in a ‘safe’ environment.
Physically sex activates the natural opioids and dopamine producing intense pleasure and euphoria which accentuates the addiction.
Spiritually sex feeds the delusion that fulfilling comfort, love and security can be experienced on a strictly human level apart from God. That can’t happen. All addicts and addictions are basically self-centered and demanding. Real spiritual needs can’t be met in that way. Only in humility and real submission to God can our deepest spiritual needs be met.
Addicts conclude from their family experiences that they are not worthwhile persons. Feelings of inadequacy and failure predominate. Addicts often see humiliation and degradation as justified or deserved. The desperate struggle around sexual compulsivity absolutely confirms this belief and enhances feelings of low self-wroth. They are committed to hiding the secret reality of their addiction at all costs because of their unworthiness. Yet the addiction guides almost all behavior & decisions. They create a front of ‘normalcy’ to hide their sense of inadequacy. They may even appear grandiose and full of exaggerated self-importance. As consequences to behaviors emerge, the front contrasts with actions that seem to be degrading or self-defeating or both. Others see decisions or behaviors as irrational, incomprehensible, or even self-destructive, but not ‘normal.’ Close friends and family members become angry and frustrated with the addicts’ egocentricity, especially when there is insensitivity to others. Not knowing the interior world of an addict, they are troubled by what looks like destructive or curious behavior that does not fit the image the addict’s project.
They believe that everyone would abandon them if the truth were known. They have a constant fear of being dependent on others. Addicts perceive their sexual behavior as so bad that everyone becomes their ‘fault.’ Assuming responsibility for all the pain in loved ones. Honest guilt and remorse cannot be expressed because that would require honesty about behavior.
They become progressively more isolated. They create the image of being in charge of life and in no need of help. They appear unaffected by any problem, but will often do extreme or indulgent things as if making up for something. No explanation is offered, however. Some addicts may continue to be charming and sociable, but all addicts become ‘unreachable’ personally as they close off all avenues of vulnerability. Significant persons in the addicts’ lives start to feel pushed away, useless, neglected and unnecessary. They become confused at seemingly generous gestures, but in the absence of any personal warmth or presence.
Anger and hurt accumulate with a sense of abandonment in reaction to the addicts’ contradictory behavior. Feeling unloved and unlovable, which means other people cannot be depended on to love them, so their needs will not be met. The resulting rage becomes internalized as depression, resentment, self-pity; and even suicidal feelings. Because they have no confidence in others’ love, addicts become calculating, strategizing, manipulative and ruthless. Rules and laws are made for people who are lovable. Those who are unlovable survive in other ways. They rage about unmet needs in the past prevents the possibility of expressing needs now because they anticipate being rejected. They appear not to want or need anything. They are purposely unclear about their intentions in relationships and are thus seductive in behavior, i.e., they try to be affirmed or cared for without expressing that they need it so they will not risk rejection. They make extensive efforts to show how respectable and law-abiding they are. Those who are close start to see the double life, the Jekyll and Hyde, in the addicts’ worlds. The addicts’ ups and downs remain difficult to understand. Worse, distrust and disbelief in the addicts begin. Things appear to be so smooth, yet the intuition is that they are not. Inconsistencies between the addicts’ public and private lives confirm these intuitions.
Addicts confuse nurturing and sex. Support, care, affirmation and love are all sexualized. Absolute terror of life without sex combines with feelings of unworthiness for such intense sexual desires. Sexual activity never meets the need for love and care, but continues to be seen as the only avenue to meeting those needs. they have a high need to control all situations in an effort to guarantee sex. Yet there is a secret fear of being sexually out of control. They Promise themselves to stop or limit sexual behavior because of this fear. Sexual obsession pervades lifestyle and behavior. They make maximum effort to ensure all possible sexual opportunities. At all levels of behavior feel the need to control sexual access, protect their ‘supply.’ Seeking degrading or humiliating sexual experiences simply extends internal feelings of unworthiness. They publicly profess extreme sexual propriety, however about some sexual matters. Cover-ups, lies, and deceptions are made to conceal personal sexual behavior. The addicts’ protestations of high sexual morality obscure the impact of sexual obsession on friends and families. Close family and friends tend to reject suspicions of sexual compulsivity because of the addicts’ values. Evidence of powerlessness over behavior and unmanageability mounts, these persons become confused, not knowing what to believe. They do not wish to intervene in something so personal. Since they don’t feel close enough to become involved, they choose the other option, which is to withdraw. This makes them to fail in life. Getting in more trouble not being happy, and not being pleasurable or normal to other people.
Over all sex addiction can be curable, it is not a deseas. Psycological help can help to get rid of sex addiction. Even though people think its normal for them to act the way they act. Mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually abuse does causes different harms, like being sex addicted causes more problems, in relationships and friends specially with the family. With this in mind it is best to get help.
Diabetes is life long disease in which there are high levels of sugar in the blood. There are two types of diabetes and each one is a little different. There is type on1 and type 2.
The cause of diabetes is when the pancreas doesn’t make enough any of the hormone insulin. So it makes the glucose in the blood to be too high. Diabetes is really common on children and adults but it depends on what type of diabetes either type 1 or type 2. But once you have diabetes it’s going to be hard to either control or get rid of diabetes. Most of the occasion’s diabetes does not go away. Because of the diabetes not going away it has many effects. Many of the effects cause diseases or deadly diseases.
The effects that diabetes has are very dangerous. The most common and deadliest effect is heart disease. Heart disease is very common because of all the fatness we have in our body and we do not get rid of. It is hard to control your diabetes; diabetes does not go away once you have it stays forever, that’s why we eat healthy so we wont has effects later. Other effects that diabetes has are atherosclerosis, heart palpitations, heart attacks and hypertension. There is other many effect but these are the most common and deadliest effects. Diabetes is the most worst disease that someone can have because is not curable and the most dangerous one.
There are some different ways to treat diabetes. If you have type 1 diabetes you have to take daisy insulin shots. Which is pretty awful because taking insulin shots daily is crazy. If you have type 2 diabetes you have of choice. With type 2 diabetes most of the people control their diabetes with exercising and with a diet. The only way of controlling diabetes is doing blood testing, before breakfast and after meals. This is just to see how high your blood sugar is. It is important to keep a diet when having diabetes, how ever having a diet when healthy is the best thing because that way you have no risk of getting diabetes.
This is the cause and effects that diabetes has. That’s why it is important to know what diabetes is and need to understand that our body is very important to take care of. It is very important to understand what’s going on with your body because otherwise not knowing how to take care of your body it can ruin you life forever and probably have to suffer your whole life.
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